don't go to bed mad
the most common, and in my opinion, the worst i've had. sometimes i've gone to bed a little tiffed at nate and woke up totally forgetting about the whole thing. i'd rather just, "sleep on it" and if im still mad in the morning, then we can talk.
don't get cable
my mom gave me some good advice and more will follow, this is one i will fight nate on until the end. he can tell me that we will not turn in to couch potatoes, but i prove him wrong when we are at a hotel and act like kids in a candy store with that remote.
don't put a t.v. in the bedroom
this is not one that we argue about. no dogs sleeping with us and no t.v. in the bedroom makes more time for other things. nate has not argued.
make sure your husband has a warm meal on the table each night
this is my grandma and my mother. of course they also thought that when i became engaged that i should quit college. i get bitched out if nate has to get up for his own iced tea at their house.
pick your battles
i hear this one alot too. i see what the point is here. see the next one for more detailed advice.
when to argue
my mother in law is one smart cookie. she told me once that before you think about bringing up somthing that will start a big argument, imagine if it will matter to you in three months. if it matters then, bring it up. i like that time frame thing, it gives me something to think about in the heat of the moment.
keep your independence
this one was my dad. he also wanted me to keep my last name so i still have both.
be on their side
this was also from my dad. he told me to always be on nate's side. no matter what. i like this.
marriage is not 50/50
my mimi always tells me this. she and my grandpa are an inspiration too. she tells me that one person will almost always give or do more than the other and to be okay with that. this is also the same woman who tells me to have a hot meal on the table.
when to have kids
my mom told me once that having children is the greatest thing that will ever happen to you but be prepared to worry for the rest of your life.
the grass is always greener
another wise lady told me that you might think that the grass is greener on the other side but most likely you will have the same problems with anyone else so fix them with the person that you chose to love and marry because you chose them for a reason.
travel together
my favorite great aunt and uncle traveled alot together throughout their life because they didnt have children. she always told me that you really form a sense of partnership when you travel together and see the world. i totally see this one. the newness and excitement of travel. nate and i travel well together.
#1 and #2
with the bathroom door closed. this is my own. he does not need any part of this.
OnMyList
List your pants off!